I Had Miscarriage In 1988, Did IVF Twice But Yet To Have A Child At 60-Actress Dupe Jayesimi

A veteran actress, Dupe Jayesimi, has talked about how she had high hopes of entering motherhood, but ended up being unable to have a child at 60.

Team@orientactualmags.com learned that Jayesimi disclosed this during a podcast hosted by Abiola Adebayo on Saturday called ‘Talk-to-B’.

The popular actress, an indigene of Ibadan, Oyo State, also disclosed that her mother and family members did not support the idea of adopting a child.

‘If you adopt any kid, I will feed them to death’ her mother had told her. . ‘It was then I knew that I was in for a long ride’ she added.

The screen star also recalled how she had anticipated and had great hopes of entering motherhood until certain untoward developments cropped up.

‘I got married on October 22, 1988. I had started theatrical works then. In our marriage, we had no child for several years despite conceiving before the wedding ceremony. After getting married, I had a miscarriage, which was when our problems started. We had too many tests, with several attempts to conceive. My husband and I had a misunderstanding when he left me for months without checking back we were then already five years into our marriage. The problem lingered that he began to use a pillow to demarcate the bed.

 He began to make plans to make me walk away from the marriage. I had to leave when I could no longer bear it. Two weeks after I left the house, another woman moved into the house, pregnant. I resorted to taking alcohol and sobbing for years. I had to move on when the problem was becoming unbearable. I summoned the courage to say that I wouldn’t get married again, but my parents rejected such an idea, urging me to remarry.

So, I met one Alhaji who tried his best to make me conceive. I did IVF twice, and it didn’t even work. So, one day, I conceived, without even knowing. At the point that I wanted to urinate when I came back from a location one night, I couldn’t, it was too hard, I had to call for a nurse who gave me pain relief and advised that I head for the hospital the following day. When I got to the hospital, the doctor said I was pregnant, but it was an ectopic pregnancy. I cried hell. Then I was already 40 years old. I was operated on and since then, I haven’t conceived. I had to leave the Alhaji because his wife began a war with him’ she said.

Jayesimi submitted that the issue of not having a child is no longer a source of worry while noting that she may reconsider the idea of adopting a child.

‘There are several men who would lie that when you marry them, you will conceive. It is a lie. They want to sleep with you. Not that I don’t think about it, but I know God’s time is the best. I have taken a lot of steps to conceive. Those who I trained their children mocked me at the end of the day.

This acting job is just a blessing in disguise. It has helped me sustain the watered ground of mockery. What I want to do now is get a child who will be my company. If I had not listened to my mum, I would have adopted a child a long time ago. I am not fighting with my mum, but I want her to stay clear of me because she’s the cause of my childlessness’ she added -Team@orientactualmags.com  Do you have any information you wish to share with us? Do you want us to cover your event or programme? Kindly send SMS to 08035023079, 08059100286, 09094171980 or get in touch via orientactualmag@gmail.com.  Thank you